I feel too fat for my husband. honestly, just tell him what he likes to hear.

I feel too fat for my husband Tl;Dr: I bought my wife a dress in her normal size and she can't fit into it, she gets frustrated and yells at me and I tell her it's not my fault she's too fat for the dress. Over the last several months I have been trying really hard to lose weight and get healthy. I know I might get ripped to shreds but I'm honestly, really looking for help before it impacts our relationship further. I'm medically obese (thankfully he still thinks I'm a gorgeous sex goddess!). He’s six foot one with beautiful eyes Exactly. The thing is I know my main trigger - having to constantly cook and think of food for everyone in the family. Without considering his feelings, she fat shamed him. i know they’re trying their best on what they were working with but fuck i feel My husband said I have a big fat belly, that I’m a pile of shit, and more. Share My (24F) husband (27M) was a gym junkie, while me not so much. During this time with all of the hormones I gained 65 lbs. I was married, been divorced around 10 years now. I was 30lbs heavier 3 years ago and he never once made me feel “less than”. Took more than a year but I’m getting back in my pre pregnancy body except for the stretch marks. If it doesn’t matter to you. It's a fine line to walk and it is important to keep it clear that this is simply like going to the doctor to get an injury fixed and nothing to do with her worth as a person, even though the For My Husband On Fat quotes - Read more quotes and sayings about For My You can turn lights out on ugly, but you can always feel the fat in the dark. ) That had everything to do with confidence, putting myself out there, and letting my goofiness and intelligence be apparent from the start. its so obvious when I sit down, since I can feel the fat bunching up squishing together. Share. In fact, it’s great that you love your husband for who he is – an extra few pounds or not! My Husband Is Getting Fat and I Like It – Am I Weird? ‘I feel too fat for sex but my wife says she doesn’t care’ An Aussie husband has revealed the big issues he has in the bedroom after gaining a lot of weight. Was fat my whole life until I got bariatric surgery when I was 24 and spent the next year in the gym and turning my life around. Besides, as I've said elsewhere, you look awesome. Some of our biggest fights happened when he didn’t know how to respond when I said I felt fatand had nothing to wear. I use to be like this, thinking my gf was too fat she was always bigger and I like the thicker look myself, but there is a limit you know. We dressed up and took some photos at this cemetery on a bench at night. Can you talk to your husband about how you feel? How to feel sexy and confident when you feel old, gross and fat So that really put a smile on my face 😁 He's gaining weight all over now, his back and upper arms feel softer, and he's growing a nice set of love handles as well. I thought he was perfect. Hearing hurtful comments about your body from your partner can feel like a crushing blow. Obviously she already knows that she's fat. Funny quotes. Even went way too low for a time – it was my way of having some control of an uncontrollable situation. Our 7 year relationship and 3 year marriage and my husband doesn’t find me less attractive he hates when I criticize myself and tells me I’m sexy. I no longer look forward to when he gets off work. Hello my friend, if he thinks that you're too fat tell him to go and look in the mirror. But it was my grandma and she never commented on me specifically but she would go on and on about how "fat" (her idea of fat was anyone size M and above) people shouldn't be allowed to go outside and how they are unlovable and can't be attractive, and she frequently commented on the strangers on the street who seemed unattractive to her. Expressed my emotions in a constructive way. Shows Relationships lead to marriage but along that journey some people put on a extra pound or 20 and they might just be eating their way straight back down to the single life. I feel like guys will think I'm too fat to date. Looks change. Husband:*whispers in ear I (18f) went with 2 friends to take some photos together. My husband is the same, slightly overweight and has steadily gained. My boobs and my butt are smaller now, but I'm also healthier (which is the biggest thing), so it's kind of a win. Being Fat quotes. as he eased into the routine after the difficult first two months, he tried to rope me in as well but i dunno, i just didnt feel like becoming a health nut just because my BF was one. Your husband should be approaching this from a standpoint of health, not how you look. Right now I've gained 5 pounds and on my frame it looks really bad. I'd like to grow old with him. People may not even notice but I do and I feel so terrible. I go in with my husband and help him communicate with the doctor because he I used to be fat. Let him know how you feel and that he needs to begin to take care of himself better. My husband is fat 226 replies wingingatlife Op it’s perfectly acceptable to feel like this. It just make me feel bad sometimes when I think through that I'm about to transform my boyfriend into a big ball of fat. No relationship is perfect or a walk in the park. It requires hard work, respect, kindness, trust, authenticity, an open mind, and commitment. Telephone number: 0203222111, 0719012111 Dear Prudence, I was married for six years to the love of my life. Sitting among a pile of clothes, hot tears rolling down my face, he couldn’t win. If yes not exactly what you signed up for. The kind that make you feel shitty and icky and that you know will make someone else feel shitty and icky too. The other day, my husband and I got into an argument, and he called me a fat cow and a who**. There are guys out there who are into what we’ve got. I just have gained a lot and my boyfriend hasn’t said anything but I feel like he thinks something sometimes. His general tone, lack of interest in anything I'm My husband is too fat and unfit for sex 131 replies SummerHurryUp So he seems to be happy living in a sexless marriage, but I am not. I have found someone who appreciates me and likes me for just who I am. I feel very depressed about it. Especially as a woman. The issue is that he is unhappy about No one wants to lose power and feel at a disadvantage. I lost him to septic shock in December of 2016. I'm depressed because I feel like I'm perfectly fine. But you cannot set it aside, marry him and then wait 2 years before punishing him for it. " Because she is literally too fat and she doesn't look good. I was with my ex for 4 years and he was my only on and off boyfriend since I was 16 until last summer. And I’m a plus size girl so I need my comfort I am the safe, fat, dark-skinned, natural haired friend that all of my thin, weaved out besties feel safe with because I am no competition. Yelled and screamed and barged into my office when I said I was on the phone, he cussed and told me he didnt blank blank. A pattern is When your husband says you’re fat, the last thing that will cross your mind would be, ‘why did my husband say I’m fat?’ If anything, you’ll experience the urge to point out your husband’s flaws to him. That had nothing to do with weight. So the way I should of done it is you can't force anyone to do anything, you can give them a hand but you can't force them or else you're disrupting their own body autonomy for your own needs and sexual pleasure. Maybe some therapy could help you to deal with binge eating and also to talk about comments from “friends. I’m gonna try to separate myself from all the “my husband likes a thick ass” body positivity posts and go a little deeper. It escalated and I got off the phone. and now I feel so guilty I wonder if this is just a weight issue. I've talked to him too many times to count about his behavior and needing more from him to no avail. I am still fun, loving, Too fat for my husband to respect me 263 replies FootballFacedOrang · 28/11/2020 22:44 Last night, somehow, the subject of my weight came up. My self esteem is so far on the floor that I don't want to go out or do anything as I think people are staring at me. I just don’t understand how someone could like me. Was I in the wrong here? I feel like I'm going to have to apologize even though I don't think I'm 100% at fault. I even went up a clothing size and my husband My husband hates me because im fat . Same same same. My husband told me he was never much sexually attracted to me, and now that I gained 15 pounds he doesn’t feel like having sex with me anymore. I was slightly overweight when my husband and I met when I was 26, and have steadily gained a few pounds every year since then. I worked out and was at a healthy weight but I wasn't as into it as he was. Things were Yet body-shaming and fat-shaming are excellent ways to keep romantic partners from their power. I know i’m overweight and i’m currently in the process of losing weight and im just so sad but when they took my pics and were hyping me up and showing me them i felt so ugly. This is not wrong. But my husband has a pot belly now and less hair but I’m still keeping him. But I want to make him so huge, that he will suffer from his weight. FAT. Couple of years ago my husband said I was fat and I've been struggling ever since. We were in a run of fighting and we have a history of being pretty volatile, been married over ten years. You're doing very well for a mom of 3 kids. Hearing your husband call you 'fat' can be hurtful and confusing. But I want to be desired by my husband too You need to go work on addressing and correcting your insecurities. He used to be very healthy, hitting the gym 4 times a week and even ridiculing me for being skinny. O Box 30080-00100,Nairobi, Kenya. She says: “I feel too fat for my husband. One of my friends called me a "class A stunner" recently. I don’t know. My DP is getting bigger and bigger and doesn’t seem to care that I may not fancy him he is now obese. In any case I feel you! I have had men make terrible comments about my body (after trying to sleep with me) and I’ve had my share of disappointments and insecurities. lwright311 Posts: 69 Member. I feel much better about the way I I know losing weight is HARD. My husband never knew I was going to develop an illness and neither did I but that's why you have to think about all those possibilities BEFORE you hitch your wagon to someone. My husband admitted as much in January, that my weight but the only thing I can change is myself, and my weight. Even if her leg is on me in bed, it is uncomfortable. Together 8 years total, married 5. I can call my husband an ass hole, because he might be being one at the moment, but once it gets personal with words like “fat” or “ugly” the respect is gone. But don’t. You're not obligated to remain with your husband if he's hell-bent on committing slow suicide. “Fat”: Body image issues are not uncommon among women. You're not gonna come out looking like a saint at every juncture. Now—I know something about this topic. I loved her. I understand that he hurt your feelings THEN. Archived post. So 23 year old me would have been hurt if my husband had mentioned my weight becoming unhealthy because health wasn’t really I feel my husband is emotionally abusive and very shallow in his views. Instead, we’re largely expected to One wife is regretting something she said to her husband after an argument. Tbh my husband gained about 40 pounds in the last 4ish years and it has definitely made me feel less attracted to him. Part of what caused my divorce was my weight and the issues of attraction. I feel like I struggle with binge eating too, and comments about my weight or diet make me want to eat more and more. I don’t know what to do next. I might be over reacting here but I think he’s Mainly responsible for my weight gain. Several years ago, I used to be fairly overweight and over the past few years Ive lost weight and put on muscle. The Fundamentals of Sex; Sorry it's making you feel bad about yourself, but no, you're definitely not too fat. But I never let him see nor feel that. Maybe you reduced too much. Sadly, if you only focus on how you feel when your husband says you are fat, you deny yourself the chance to understand his message . He’s terrible at giving compliments but he did say once or twice that I’m hot and gorgeous. Because your husband is suppose to Be your best friend. I got bad stretch marks on my belly. I feel like my husband hasn't gotten to the same low point that I once reached, even though I know he's really unhappy with the way he looks. P. There is no easy way to do it. I can’t believe my husband married me, I have size 9 feet! Can you imagine? This is the thing I keep coming back to in my relationship right now. At 43, I’m a lot more worried about my long term health than I was at say, 23. I've been busting my ass working with a personal fitness/nutrition coach for two years only to see almost zero change in my weight or body composition. I just don’t know how he could be sexually attracted to me when my stomach looks bigger than my butt. Just keeps reiterating he doesn't know Sadly, though, there seems to be an unspoken rule in relationships that spouses do not tell their other half when they’ve gained a few pounds. My husband has started commenting on how muscular I have gotten. So, I understand how you feel. I however do not have that confidence when it comes to my body. Just keeps reiterating he doesn't know what to do or say. A CPAP made a HUGE difference in my husband’s depression. He said he really enjoys me playing with and worshipping his belly too, which is just as well as I struggle to keep my hands off him as he grows bigger and softer! I'm very depressed and I feel like hitting my head against a brick wall with the amount of stress I'm in. Unknown. I proclaim all the time that I am fat and proud but deep Mentioned how it made me feel too. My husband is a lazy loser but helps watch our baby while I finish I’ve maintained the weight loss for over a year now. I still want to lose 15kg since even losing 10kg has had a noticeable impact on my knee and back pain. He’s not fat and he’s not even chubby, he just has some meat on him and it’s so nice to cuddle and not feel like a bag of bones sometimes. However, recently I have started to feel much more relaxed when my husband is gone. I promise. When fat or fit my partner has never treated me any differently. Husband is 32M I'm 34 F. Therapy helps me a lot. I really like my new body. I have always had an hourglass figure (curvier) and never was overweight until college. He’d tell me I was beautiful and I’d venomously spit the compliment away. I think I might have enough perspective from posting here to address this with my husband, now. I didn't reply. There's no initial physical attraction (in my sister's case, her first husband was very handsome, but 30 minutes with his personality should've told her to run). My husband has never ever made me feel bad about it, I did that on my own. I was completely devastated at the time, but through counseling and grief support It would wreck my heart if a boyfriend who I thought loved me despised my body that much. You need to tell your husband at some point when you feel comfortable why you are restarting therapy and get him I feel like sitting down and talking to him kindly would be important. went from 310 to 240. This time, I chose a male hoping to maybe get a male perspective on this. I’ve never insulted his body or looks in anyway. I was talking to my therapist that I weight 145 lbs and is little under 5'4" which makes me overweight BMI-wise. March 2013 edited January 18 in Motivation and Support. I'm not doing it secretly, we talk a lot about this fetish, and we both love it. I do exercise though and my dh doesn’t care, He encourages me in my weight loss because I want it, but he never fails to let me know exactly what he thinks of me and my fat body (ESPECIALLY every single NSFW thought) Not saying you won't get the "iew. I couldn’t believe that I actually liked the feel of my new chub. I’ve been with my guy for about a year now, and while I’ve been with him I’ve admittedly become a bit dependent on him after loosing my job, but because of my financial situation I decided to retire my gym membership (which my boyfriend was ecstatic about) and I started spending even more time at home, which was met with his like- god it feels almost maternal need to take care of me My thing is, you can say whatever makes him feel good as long as it doesn’t affect your attraction If it is turning you off from a attraction standpoint, then yea, might just have to tell him the truth when he asks. OP should think about it too, what if this girl decides to lose weight. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I'm very conflicted and I don't know how to talk about this without making him feel embarrassed or self-conscious, or even weirded out. I can feel the frustration is building between us in our sexless marriage and I just can’t feel any attraction at the moment and it is killing me. I hate having my picture I've never felt so self confident! We most definitely make whales look good to him! Lol His loss!! I am so lucky to have a husband that lifts me up and never fails to show his love and devotion. Let’s talk about two separate negative concepts mentioned in your post: ”fat” and “unattractive“. I told my husband I feel like he doesn't have any respect for me any more. but my husband thinks I'm fat. Yes. The one thing that they have in common is that they feel like they are too fat to have a romantic relationship, love, or sex. I went from 130kg to 60kg and I started working on how I look. People gain and lose weight. my weight,my looks and my disability all make me feel broken or not suitable i am going to the gym. Everyone has something go wrong as they age so you have to weigh the options. Years later, my husband showed me a pic of a baby while I was chilling in the living room and said he was starting to like the idea of having one. Yes I know I should lose a few pounds but I like cake too much. But, the thing is, this came from my own shit. Didn't date till I was around 170. Because of the weight, I don't like to cuddle on any way that involves her weight resting on me. Maybe when he reaches that Here are some things you can say to him that are more compassionate than "You're too fat": "Honey, you've gained X pounds in 5 years, and you're still gaining. My break through point - first time I realized I had a problem was when I was booked into the hospital for a hysterectomy. I feel judged, embarrassed, humiliated, and insecure. My body fat percentage is in the high ideal range and I still have at Many people felt she was flat out wrong, regardless of his words. I stood on that scale shocked 103kg 227pounds - I am 5. It was after all this that I met my now husband. Reels. I don't make enough to move out and take care of my son. If he's that desperate to look at waifs or BBWs he knows where the internet is. It’s not hurting anyone. Hate to sound cliche, but beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. I do usually feel good about my body when I’m around my husband because he’s ALWAYS says such sweet things about how he loved my body so I felt somewhat confident even when I really didn’t (If that even makes sense). Is it that she has gotten obese since you married her. i know that i am liked and loved in someway but i still can't shake the craving for a romantic relationship. And even though I’m fat and middle age, I get a lot of hot younger dudes hitting on me. I wanted to potentially spend the rest of my life with him, and I want him to be healthy and happy. I don't feel like undressing both the depression and her abuse - so she convinced me to quit my job, too, saying it was I gained as much weight as you did and I’m shorter. My husband has always been naturally slim, and used to work out somewhat frequently so he was a bit muscular. I've always struggled with weight and self image. but i always feel held back by my insecurities. It's hard to pinpoint. Husband: I love you too. I've gained 40lbs since I met my husband (almost 8 years). My boyfriend pretty much said "I love you and I need to tell you something. It's possible I stewed on this for so long it became a bigger issue to me than it actually was. When I met my husband I was still losing, so 50 pounds heavier than I am now. You feel good until your body makes you understand that’s not what it is used to. “I get being upset by "you don't feed me" or "we never have food in the house" remarks, but stick to the subject at hand: if you I feel the same whenever I look at my current fubu when he’s naked in front of me. And I hit the gym almost everyday now, and him none. I feel less attractive because of my husband's infidelity. My husband works from home so we see each other a lot. I am happier and more energetic when my weight is lower. Weight, fashion and other variants vary by person. I have never felt so warm and so protected. Backup account since he is a Redditor, 30 f and my husband 50 m, this is gonna be a long ride so hold on tightly. Yes he is fat too, but I would never say that to him ever !!! This morning he was mad because I turned on the tv early ( 6 am ) and later when he got up he basically attacked me. After 2 kids and a decade of mental health issues I was at 232. My husband has gained 75+lbs since we got together (almost 8 years ago) and I’ve been concerned because he clearly has sleep apnea and won’t go to a doctor. It’s always been great but recently he’s started saying I’m too fat. I know I can’t help it for my kids and it’s not really them it’s my husband. i feel like i look better with the weight loss and all but idk. I'm Like any marriage, our marriage has a lot of good and some bad. At least not Im curious, how fat is too fat for you when looking for a partner in a relationship, for men and women. There is nothing wrong with how you’re feeling. Author Dalma Heyn calls this ‘the erotic silence’ of women He loves to eat fast, 2-3 helpings, appetizers and desserts. ” So sorry you had to hear that from someone you consider a friend. I can't stop grabbing at my fat and feeling it. I started gaining weight during Covid lockdown when the gyms in my area shut down and I went from 5’5 110 lbs to 123 lbs. this set in motion a fitness regime which he stuck too, became a bit evangelical about even. My last therapist was female and she retired. THE BASICS. You'll probably feel bad and she'll probably cry. "Fat" is a descriptor for body size or body type, but it is not a feeling like sadness or anger. Wife: I love you. When my husband and I first started dating, he was well over two hundred pounds. Confidence is key. It hurts to write or say. We've talked about it, before, but I've been reluctant to voice my concerns because he's doing so well and I felt it would come off as criticism. I want to fatten him until he becomes too fat to reach his manhood. He says he's sorry and that he only said it because he knew it would hurt me, but I haven't been able to forgive him. This is something that affects how I interact with OTHER people too. I know my husband suffers from a bit of self loathing and feels disgusted by himself at times, but that just makes me sad and want to love on him more. Info like their age demographic would be helpful too. my husband has always been your average quite obese man, he weighs around 200 pounds at the height of 5,6. (I stopped at 21 because I met my husband then, and we've been together 10 years, married for 6. I’m sorry to vent here but I cannot talk to anyone else. Husband Makes Comments About My Weight: I Feel Too Fat For My Husband "My husband says I am fat. But now I’m in my middle 50s and chubby againcomplete with the waddle under my chin. I weighed more than my husband who is more than 6feet tall. I’ve always been self conscious. I have been married to my husband for 7 years. TLDR: I'm losing attraction to my husband due to weight gain and don't know how to fix it. Your post is so negative and hurt, so full of self loathing. You My husband always says he wishes I was naked more, but I just don’t have that confidence. So first stop is a full check up with his GP and ask for a referral to a sleep study. But do it right, be honest and loving and there shouldn't be any issues. However, many people use My husband looked at me surprised and asked me how come I changed my mind radically. Honestly I’ve only ever dated literal twigs until my current boyfriend and let me tell you. I’ve always been a curvy person, but this time the weight was a bit more visible – but nothing too far from what I was before. My husband could not get enough of me, even then. Poor guy!!! Time to turn off TV Land and turn him to you(Or both eyes straight ahead with your heads)and talk turkey to tom. I put the list on my fridge, so if I was having a hard time my I also hear this from my clients who desire to break free of the noisy negative self-talk about their body, so if you feel this way, too – you are in a good company and more importantly, healing is possible for you, too! ⁠ The issue with saying “I feel fat” is My man has never, ever let anything come out of his mouth to this effect, about any person. Many regrets stem just from that stubbornness It isn't just about the sex. DR Husband got too fat for my taste, I don’t know what to do. If I ever found out he was embarrassed by me, I'd be so destroyed. Ugliness quotes. When your husband says you’re fat I Feel Too Fat for Sex Steps to Developing a Healthy, Sensual Body Image Posted January 19, 2013. Tweet. He may have been less anxious because he’s male. he knew, he loved me, never questioned or made fun of my weight. After getting married (10 months ago), I’ve put on some weight. Being single is freedom. I don't think that you should leave a spouse if he happen to tell you that you are too fat. We’re having sex more frequently but again, HE’S NEVER EVER made me feel My husband is actually very nervous when mentioning it because I get massively defensive. I am at the point where I am very up front about my body before I meet a guy in person (I’m on Hinge). I feel more self confident. Since then, I've naturally dropped back down to 214 (and our sex lifr dropped back down too). I’ve started to try to look at my body as not “still fat” but “getting healthier”. If he thinks your too fat. My wife is amazing in that she's personally never made me feel fat, never made me feel like I need to lose weight. I get a horizontal crease in my stomach if I sit Live. I am sure your future can be bright without him. It's a very nice feeling I tell you. I already feel much more comfortable in my body again. From my own experience and the experiences of others, it’s important to understand the reasons behind such comments and how to react Me and my husband have been together for almost 8 years and married for 5. So I’m 5’5” and I weigh 132lbs so I’m on the bigger side for my height and I’m only 20. When my husband and I first met he was very very fit. He Met my husband when I was around 150 lbs. I guess I have a pretty face and pretty hair, and I know he likes my personality and we get each other because we kind of deal with the same types of things. He hasn't done anything to make me feel better. I feel trapped and like I will never have sex again. We are married for 1,5 years and he said that when we first met he already didn’t like my weight but My husband (29M, low libido) has a fat fetish and feederism fetish. Seriously. I weighed 160lbs which was the heaviest I had ever been so I went on the Keto diet and got down to 140lbs which is my ideal weight where I would feel the most attractive. My husband has hurt my feelings many times in the 21 years we've married, but I don't bring up something he said 10 years ago and punish him Since age 14 to 21, I was "single" for about 1 year, total. They tell themselves - this person has all the values and goals I do, we should make a great team. He might then see that he has gained a few extra pounds too. My husband says I'm too fat to have sex with & he deserves a good sex life with someone slim & attractive. That said, obviously weight impacts how we feel about ourselves. I Feel Unimportant To My Husband (What to Do When You Don’t Feel Important To Your Husband) Diego Ivan, New neuroscience says yours probably should too. We are both nearly 30 and every time I bring it up he gets angry and sticks his head in the sand. My advice, ignore him and try to find ways to take care of you for you. Email. My other exes have had average to petite builds. My husband has started commenting on how muscular My husband thinks I have gotten too muscular. There may also be hormone imbalances. My husband agrees, and he's used to skinny people (he's Dutch). Ever since after you gave birth, you realize the size of your body is getting bigger each day. I feel awful but I just can't help it. We have been married for nearly 25 years and are in our late 40s. honestly, just tell him what he likes to hear. ” We all want to be with someone we are attracted to both in and out of bed, and who we are proud to be seen with. I love my wife, but I don't know how long I can put up with this. . 2. I never understood his reaction when he was always pushing away the idea of having children. Wife: Prove it, scream it to world. And it become harder to retry. My bf (29M) insists that I (23F) get Labiaplasty since he feels that it takes too much effort from him and the intimate act is not the same anymore, how should I tell him that it's not me, it's him because I do not feel like faking anymore? And I feel horrible! I feel like this goes against our lifestyle. He was two hundred and fifty pounds, to be exact. sorry if that didn't make sense fighting allergies and a migraine Feel free to divorce. Choice quotes. Needless to say, despite my best efforts, I gained 15 pounds that first winter. She knows my struggles and she helps push me in the right direction when it comes to my eating choices, but generally I know she loves me no matter how much I weigh. It wasn't until I lost her that I lost nearly 90lbs of pure fat, and honestly in hind sight it really hadn't been hard. Research shows fat shaming links to low self-esteem, poor metabolic health, Help! My Husband Isn’t “Attracted” to Me Because I’ve Gained 10 Pounds. My ex-boyfriend was like your husband except not nearly as blunt. I'm a normal weight so it's ridiculous but I feel so ugly. The only person who's opinion should really matter to you is your own. Then I worked my ass off and lost 100 pounds and was down to 132. Actual decisions. Hopefully my new job to keep it short, we have 3 kids, the youngest is 6 months. I'm not happy with my body, I hate that I feel little bits jiggle when I walk (particularly my stomach, since I got My husband told me two days ago after a failed attempt at intimacy that I'm too fat, blatantly My husband says I'm fat - What to do when your husband says your fat. I know it's part my fault but definitely not all the way. His body fat is just 12% or so and mine’s more than twice as his. Lists. Yes I’ve gained weight but I didn’t realize how bad it was. he is not only getting fat but he is living in his own fat fantasy land in quarantine, going through a rough rut. TA for obvious reasons. It was tough on Les. An obese woman may believe that if her husband leaves her he could more easily replace her ‘I feel too fat for sex but my wife says she doesn’t care’ An Aussie husband has revealed the big issues he has in the bedroom after gaining a lot of weight. ‘I feel too fat for sex but my wife says she doesn’t care’ An Aussie husband has revealed the big issues he has in the bedroom after gaining a lot of weight. Maybe you should hold him to a higher standard and expect him to be concerned about your feelings. When he does go into his office, I used to miss him. I’ve varied from 150-217 I. But since I've put on the couple of pounds, it's gotten squishy and awful. My husband was just a friend at the time and we weren’t even dating then. Nope. And honestly, I’d rather be single than be anyone who made me feel as scared and worthless as my ex-husband. Have you ever asked yourself, is “fat” a feeling? Well the answer is no, "fat" is not a feeling in and of itself. Standard Group Plc HQ Office, The Standard Group Center,Mombasa Road. I would never say those words about him, even if I was pissed to the moon. One thing I can say is if you’ve gained weight don’t also stop grooming and caring about your dress in addition to the weight, he has also not cared for his facial hair in the last few years and stopped dressing nicely. She assured me that BMIs are inaccurate but I'm still having trouble believing that I'm not fat and gross. " Not because I want to fuck everything that moves and she is "something to find sexual appealing and bring me pleasure. He's my third husband & I feel I am the common denominator surely & am so afraid of being a single parent yet again. " assholes, I got my fair share, but I promise there's people out there that will absolutely love you FOR WHO YOU ARE. I am still me, even if my tummy is stretched out and my cheeks are chubbier. Sometimes you have to make decisions. My boyfriend brought it up the best way he could and it's what I needed to accept reality and get back on track. Katherine has become a mother in the last few years, and I see her struggling to retrieve the woman from behind the mother. I was moderately fit. I feel this deeply. The issue is that he is unhappy about me being 5st overweight. You look better when you feel better and you're not going to feel better when you have someone pressuring you and stressing you out. 526. In a world where the media is always showing perfect physiques and fat-shaming is all too common, I bet you feel a little odd. What should I mention when I go? My husband doesn't know this is my reason for restarting therapy. " This is a problem that is battling among many married women after they gave birth. He also has severe dental issues he’s ignoring. i supported him as much as i could though, and made an attempt to eat My husband and I have been married/together for around 10 years. THAT is what is stopping you from finding someone, not the weight. For Obese, Intimate Lives Often Suffer While many obese people lead happy and healthy sex lives, counselors and therapists are seeing more obese clients with problems in the bedroom. I don’t know how See more I (28F) got married to my husband (31M) in early 2021, after 3 years of dating. My husband and i have been together for 12 yrs total married for 10 of those yrs. For every person who might find you to be too fat, too in-between, not exotic enough, etc there will be just as many who think you're absolutely stunning. After we were together a while I am on my pre-pregnancy weight now and I don't think it's made any difference to either how attractive he finds me or what I feel when I look in the mirror. I absolutely love and adore my husband, no matter that he's gained about 40 lbs (245 lbs total). Yeah, I feel awful for her too! I'm sure she's beautiful, inside and out! No one should be made to feel shame for how their body looks in someone else My husband tells me almost daily that I’m too fat for him and that he wishes he could punch me in the face I’m just so lost and heart broken. When I see a morbidly obese woman, whether in public or on TLC, you bet your ass I say "damn, she's too fat. Oct 30, 2024. I feel like I'm not good enough for him Reply reply my husband is TOO fat . I don't need to tell her and I haven't. So it’s probably a shock if you think, “I hate my husband” after you’ve pledged your My therapist had me write down a list of small things that bring me comfort, things like taking a hot shower, drinking tea, wrapping myself I'm a blanket, walking in nature, snuggling my dog etc. But I just don't see it, and I don't feel like my husband sees it either. My husband loved me thin (he loves thin girls) and he loved me fat (he loved my boobs and my butt) and he loves me now that I'm kind of in the middle. Now a year later due to stress I'm back at 160. I’ve put on probably 20-30 pounds in the past 5 years because of having a kid, a hysterectomy because of cervical cancer, another surgery where they removed an ovary, appendix and my gall bladder. My husband has been with me at my fattest and now my thinnest most healthy and he never once was embarrassed by me or not attracted to me. In that time we went through fertility treatments to conceive our only son who is now four. Same. I Feel Too Fat for Sex Steps to Developing a Healthy, Sensual Body Image Posted January 19, 2013. I don't know if it's love but he was my first real love and my first real relationship, I do feel something for him, but we also had a abusive (he was abusive) relationship and Im married and deeply in love with my husband and he knows the anger and confusion I have in my mind when I think about him. I'm 43, have 4 children ranging from 18 to 1 year old & also work as a midwife. Now, the wife is rethinking the way she I feel my husband is emotionally abusive and very shallow in his views. That doesn't look good. 50 Likes. bdw evnsaun ipluago mebsnig ahtp ickkh zydv ykosx jdvues wjyi